“I Want Her Out”: Man Sparks Outrage as He Contemplates Dumping Baby Mama of Four for Younger Colleague

In a dramatic confession that has sent shockwaves across social media, a man has come forward anonymously to reveal the emotional turmoil tearing his family apart, as he admits to contemplating kicking out his pregnant baby mama — the mother of his four children — for a new love interest. His story, posted online in a popular anonymous confession thread, has since gone viral, igniting fierce debates on love, loyalty, and responsibility.

According to the man’s detailed confession, his complex relationship with the mother of his children began five years ago when he landed a government job at the municipality. Excited about his newfound stability, he reached out to his former partner — his baby mama — who at the time was already engaged to another man. Despite not being romantically involved with her at the time, he claimed he wanted to build a family unit and raise their child under one roof. With emotional persuasion and promises of marriage within a year, he successfully convinced her to leave her fiancé and move in with him.

Fast forward five years, the couple is still living together under what he described as a “vat and sit” arrangement — cohabiting without any legal marriage. In that period, they have had two more children, with the fourth currently on the way. Despite living as a family, the promised wedding never happened. He never fulfilled the commitment he used as the foundation to bring her back into his life.

Now, in an unexpected twist, the man says his heart has changed. He claims to have fallen in love with a younger, more attractive, and highly ambitious colleague at work. According to him, this new woman makes him feel seen, inspired, and hopeful for a future filled with more than just diapers and domestic obligations. He didn’t hold back in expressing that his current partner no longer ignites his passion — describing her as lacking ambition and having lost the physical appeal she once had.

“Please keep me anonymous,” his post began. “I got employed at the municipality 5 years ago. Immediately after getting employed I asked my baby mama to move in with me. We were not together anymore at the time and she was engaged to someone. I convinced her to leave him and promised to save money to marry her within a year. I just wanted us to raise our child together. It’s been 5 years and we have two more kids. She’s pregnant with our fourth. We are still in a vat and sit because I never got to marry her. I met someone at work and I think she’s more of my type than my baby mama. She’s young, beautiful and very smart. My baby mama lacks ambitions and she’s not as attractive as she used to be. My feelings for her have faded. I love my colleague more. Would it be insensitive to tell her to move out now or should I wait for her to give birth? I’ll take care of the kids.”

The man’s confession ended with a question that has rattled many: Should he ask his pregnant baby mama to move out now or wait until after she gives birth?

Online users wasted no time in dissecting the situation. Some have described the man as a master manipulator, accusing him of emotionally luring his baby mama away from a stable engagement with false promises, only to abandon her after she sacrificed everything to be with him. Others, particularly women, expressed outrage at the man’s apparent objectification and superficial standards for attraction and ambition — especially toward a woman who has carried and raised three of his children and is currently pregnant with the fourth.

“He tricked her, used her womb like a factory, and now he wants to dump her for someone prettier?” one comment read. “That’s not just insensitive, that’s cruel.”

Another user wrote, “The least he could do is honor the commitment he made to her. He dragged her from someone else’s arms and then emotionally discarded her. She deserves better.”

Others, however, argued that it’s better to leave a loveless relationship than to fake happiness for the sake of the children. “Staying in a home where the man is mentally and emotionally elsewhere is damaging for everyone involved, including the kids,” a commenter noted. “But he needs to be responsible. He cannot abandon her now, especially while she’s carrying his child.”

Legal professionals also chimed in to remind the man that “vat and sit” or not, he has a duty of care toward the woman who left her life behind to raise his children. In many jurisdictions, even without a marriage certificate, long-term cohabiting relationships with shared responsibilities — especially with children involved — may carry certain legal consequences, including rights to property and spousal support.

As the debate rages on, the identity of the man remains undisclosed, but his story has struck a nerve with thousands who see it as a cautionary tale of manipulation, broken promises, and the weight of unspoken gendered expectations in relationships.

For many women, especially single mothers, the story evokes fear and frustration — a reminder of how often they are expected to sacrifice their lives, bodies, and futures for relationships that may not be reciprocated with commitment or respect. For others, it highlights the emotional immaturity still plaguing many modern relationships, where love is too often reduced to mere convenience and physical attraction.

Still, a few voices have offered the man a benefit of the doubt, suggesting that people fall out of love and that he may simply be seeking happiness. However, even these more neutral voices have agreed on one thing: timing is everything, and to abandon a woman pregnant with his fourth child would be deeply irresponsible and potentially traumatic.

While no one has all the answers, the consensus remains clear — it’s one thing to change your mind, but it’s another to destroy a family in the process. His decision, whatever it may be, will not only affect him and his new love interest but more importantly, four innocent children and a woman who once trusted him enough to build a life together.

As the post continues to circulate across platforms, many await an update — hoping that if nothing else, he will choose integrity over impulse, and responsibility over recklessness. Whether he listens to the voice of reason or succumbs to the pull of new love remains to be seen, but one thing is sure — he’s no longer anonymous in the eyes of public opinion.