“It’s Not a Competition” — Davido’s Second Babymama Amanda Shuts Down Fan Who Advised Her to Get Married

Amanda, the second babymama of Nigerian music superstar Davido, has sparked fresh conversations online after responding to a fan who advised her to settle down and get married. In a world where the lives of celebrities and their affiliates are constantly under scrutiny, Amanda’s calm but assertive response has resonated with many, triggering a heated debate around societal pressure, marriage expectations, and the ongoing comparisons between the women connected to the Afrobeats giant.

The drama began when Amanda, who is based in the United States and is the mother of Davido’s second daughter, Hailey, posted a series of serene photos on her Instagram story. The pictures showed Amanda enjoying a quiet afternoon, spending quality time with her daughter, and embracing her soft life — a lifestyle that she has subtly promoted over the years, choosing to remain low-key and relatively removed from the buzzing Nigerian entertainment scene. While the post itself was innocuous, one comment stood out from a sea of compliments and emojis. A fan slid into her DMs with what seemed like harmless advice: “You’re beautiful and smart. Why not get married already? You deserve happiness too.”

Amanda’s response was simple but laced with depth: “It’s not a competition.” That single sentence quickly made its way to social media platforms like X (formerly Twitter), Instagram blogs, and gossip forums, sparking a wave of reactions that ranged from admiration to critique.

Many fans praised Amanda for her composure and for not giving in to the societal pressure that equates a woman’s value to her marital status. Some interpreted her response as a subtle dig at others in Davido’s orbit, particularly his wife, Chioma Rowland, whose recent wedding to the star was a grand affair that dominated headlines for weeks. While Amanda made no direct references, the internet, as always, began drawing connections and creating narratives of rivalry, competition, and shade-throwing.

Amanda has consistently stayed away from controversy, earning her a reputation as the “quiet one” among Davido’s known baby mamas. Unlike Sophia Momodu, who has had multiple public altercations and legal tussles with the singer, Amanda has largely maintained a peaceful relationship with Davido — at least publicly. This is why her response came as a surprise to many, not because it was provocative, but because she rarely says anything at all.

The issue of marriage, especially when directed at women with children outside wedlock, remains a hot-button topic in Nigerian society. For someone like Amanda, who appears content with her co-parenting arrangement and private lifestyle, unsolicited advice about settling down can be perceived as patronizing or intrusive. Her reply, “It’s not a competition,” subtly called out the underlying tone of comparison that often trails women linked to successful men. Why must one prove their happiness or success through marriage? And why must Amanda’s life be measured against the romantic trajectories of Davido’s other women?

Amanda’s clapback also touched a nerve with some critics who felt she was being defensive or bitter. “Nobody said it’s a competition,” one X user tweeted. “She should just say she doesn’t want to marry and move on.” Others, however, rallied around her, noting that Amanda had every right to shut down a comment that presumed to know what’s best for her. “Y’all love telling women what to do like marriage is some trophy,” another user posted. “Amanda is thriving, raising her daughter, and living her life. Let her be.”

The conversation quickly evolved into broader discourse on social media, especially among young women who identified with Amanda’s sentiment. Many shared stories of how family members, friends, and even strangers constantly question their marital status, as though being unmarried after a certain age is a sign of failure or incompleteness. Amanda, with just five words, gave voice to a silent frustration that many women deal with daily — the pressure to ‘catch up’ in a race that no one agreed to run.

Interestingly, Amanda’s message may have also carried an undertone of strength and independence, hinting that her happiness does not revolve around romantic validation. Her daughter, Hailey, remains her top priority, and her social media posts often reflect a deep commitment to parenting and self-care. She occasionally shares motivational messages, glimpses of her lifestyle, and photos with Hailey, steering clear of drama or any hints of jealousy or rivalry with Davido’s other partners.

Meanwhile, fans of Davido were quick to defend all parties, with some urging the public to stop pitting women against one another. “Why must people always compare Amanda to Chioma or Sophia?” one fan commented. “They are all different women with different choices. Let them live.” Others speculated that Amanda’s response might signal a growing irritation with the constant comparisons, especially in the wake of Davido’s grand wedding, which once again thrust all his baby mamas into the spotlight.

It is worth noting that Davido himself has not responded or made any comment regarding Amanda’s statement. The singer is currently enjoying the honeymoon phase of his newly sealed marriage with Chioma, and has been largely focused on music and family, sharing photos from his vacation and studio sessions.

As for Amanda, her statement may have been short, but its impact was loud. In a society where women’s choices are often boxed and judged, Amanda’s refusal to conform to societal timelines — and her confidence in her own path — is a powerful reminder that life is not a one-size-fits-all journey. Whether or not she decides to marry in the future is her personal decision. But for now, she seems perfectly content in her role as a mother, entrepreneur, and woman who knows her worth.

The message is clear: marriage is not the prize — peace, purpose, and happiness are. Amanda has made it known, in no uncertain terms, that she’s not here to compete with anyone.