"It’s Not God’s Will, Sis!" — Nigerian Lady Sparks Debate with Bold Warning Against Funding Your Own Marriage

Social media is once again buzzing with heated opinions, triggered by a passionate warning from a Nigerian woman, Nnenna B. Okoronkwo, who has stirred the pot with her viral post urging women not to use their hard-earned money to marry a man. According to her, "Marrying a man with your money is not God's will for you," a statement that has left many either nodding in agreement or shaking their heads in disbelief.

The post, shared across various platforms, quickly spread like wildfire. In her lengthy rant, Nnenna spoke directly to single women who may be contemplating spending their own millions to settle down with a man. “10 or 20 million naira might seem huge to you as a single lady,” she wrote, “well it is, just enough to afford you a quality life at least, but don't think it's enough to marry a man.”

Her tone was equal parts cautionary and comedic, but her message carried serious undertones that resonated deeply within a country where conversations around gender roles, financial power, and relationship dynamics are constantly evolving. According to her, once external responsibilities fall on that money, “e don finish o! You will suffer, my love.”

Nnenna didn’t mince words in calling out men who cannot shoulder the basic responsibilities that come with marriage. “A man who can't afford to do the basic things to wife you is not someone you should be considering for marriage,” she asserted. “Marriage is serious business and should be treated as such.”

In a society where traditional values still hold significant sway, her remarks have reignited the debate about who should foot the bill when it comes to starting a life together. The belief that a man must be financially prepared before seeking a wife is not new, but Nnenna’s delivery struck a chord — especially with her colorful language describing such men as "oriaku with moustache" and "a princess with gbola." Her humorous jabs may have lightened the tone, but the implications were clear: love alone isn’t enough to build a lasting marriage.

“You deserve better, sis,” she continued, urging women not to settle for men who cannot contribute meaningfully. Instead, she advised them to invest in themselves. “Use the money and book a trip to Qatar or maybe Mauritius or just lodge at Marriott. Just eat your money and leave Unoka for him mama. It's his lovely mother's responsibility to love him for who he is, not yours, sis!”

While some saw Nnenna’s post as a bitter or materialistic take on relationships, many others rallied behind her message, calling it a wake-up call for women who are often guilt-tripped into “building” with men who lack direction or ambition. On X (formerly Twitter), the hashtags #GodsWill and #NotYourATM began trending within hours, with thousands sharing their thoughts.

“I’ve been there before,” wrote one user. “I funded the wedding, the rent, even his startup. Guess what? He still cheated and left me for someone else. Never again.”

Another user added, “Nnenna is spitting facts. Women should stop playing God in men’s lives. Let him hustle first. You’re not his breakthrough.”

However, not everyone agreed. A number of men found the statement unnecessarily harsh, arguing that times have changed and financial partnership is a new reality in modern relationships. One critic responded, “So women want equality, but still expect men to carry 100% of the burden? Hypocrisy at its peak. What happened to love and partnership?”

Others challenged the religious undertone of her claim. “Saying it’s not God’s will is a bit too far,” said another commenter. “God looks at the heart, not the bank account. If two people love each other and support one another, that’s all that matters.”

Still, the core of Nnenna’s message appears rooted not in disdain for broke men, but in a call for women to value themselves and not enter lifelong commitments that begin with inequality. With the rising cost of living, inflation, and economic pressures bearing down on Nigerian households, the financial stakes of marriage have become more visible than ever. More women are earning and achieving, but the expectations placed on them to carry not just emotional but financial weight in a relationship are becoming increasingly controversial.

Marriage, once seen strictly as a family and spiritual union, now carries undeniable financial implications. Weddings, housing, childbearing, and daily sustenance require money, and in cases where women fund these alone, resentment and imbalance can quietly fester. Nnenna’s post may have been wrapped in sarcasm and sass, but at its heart was a plea for women to be wise — not just with their hearts, but with their bank accounts.

“Ladies,” she concluded, “don’t let desperation or society pressure you into becoming someone’s retirement plan. If he’s not ready, let him rest. Don’t play helper when God didn’t send you.”

As with most viral takes, the post has opened the floodgates of public opinion, sparking podcasts, talk show discussions, and plenty of online brawls. But regardless of the side one takes, Nnenna’s words have reminded many that the decision to marry should never be taken lightly, and that love without responsibility may simply not be enough.

Only time will tell if her bold message will influence more women to pause and reflect before writing cheques in the name of love, but one thing is clear — her voice, and others like hers, are shifting the narrative of what modern relationships in Nigeria should look like. And whether it's in a Marriott suite, on the beaches of Mauritius, or in the quiet of their own rooms, many women are beginning to realize that perhaps, being single and financially free may be far better than being married and miserable.

Because sometimes, sis, loving yourself is God’s will.